Wedding Planning with the Experts - Where to Begin

Those first days and weeks of engagement are sure to keep you and your fiance in a dizzying state of excitement and love.  You have hired a wedding planner, and are about to meet for your first consultation.  It is finally time to design your day.

Where to begin...

First, you and your fiance need to decide on the type of wedding you want.  Walk through your senses.  What do you want it to feel like?  When you look back on your wedding, what memories do you want to have?  Do you envision a grand affair, complete with black tie tuxedos, champagne, and an orchestra?  Or do you dream of something more intimate, where you are surrounded only by your closest family and friends?  This is the time to let your mind wander. Don’t limit yourself to one conversation or idea.  Consider all of your options, and be prepared to bring your top ideas with you to your first planning session.

Daydreaming and designing is the fun part.  Financing the event, that’s the practical side of planning.  Even if you have been together for years, you still need to have an open and honest conversation about how much money you will be able to invest in your wedding.  

This is also the time to discuss your vision and the budget with your families.  Tell them what you are thinking , and give them an opportunity to share their ideas as well.  Yes, your wedding is about the two of you, but it it also a public declaration of your love, and the joining of two families.  Each set of parents brings with them their own unique ideas and hopes for your wedding.  By giving them the opportunity to discuss their feelings now, without judgement, you will save yourself an immeasurable amount of heartache later.  This is also a time to discuss whether or not either side will be contributing financially.  Do your best not to bring any expectations with you to this conversation, and remember that a financial contribution (or lack thereof) is not a reflection of love or support. Be gracious, no matter what the outcome.  

And, lastly, in order to start planning your wedding, you need to have a working idea of how many guests you will be hosting.  Using your original vision and budget, begin drafting a list of guests whom you would like to invite.  Ask each family to do the same, and edit accordingly.  On average, 10% - 20% of your guests will send their regrets, but you need to plan as if each person you invite will be joining your at the ceremony and reception.  This number will impact everything from your venue search to your menu planning.  Expect to make adjustments as you go, but aim to develop a solid, working list.

Weddings are living, breathing organisms that change and grow as time goes on.  Expect to make adjustments and changes, and then more changes, as you refine your ideas and make decisions along the way.  But by arming your wedding planner with an overall vision, a budget, and a guest list, you provide your design team with all of the things they need to bring your vision to fruition!

Happy Planning!

Always...A

Love Note ~ Heather & Mike

Heather & Mike Wedding Ceremony, Wynn Las Vegas

First and foremost,  I want to thank one person for making my dreams come true on such a special day as my wedding, for which could not have happened with out you!

Andrea you exceeded every expectation and vision that I had though of as a fiancée and made possible on the day I became a bride! Not only was the planning with you so fluid, professional, elegant but you also treated us like family.

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart that without you that day would not have been possible.....
We love you!!!!!!!

Heather & Mike

Enter the Planner

Wedding Planners are featured front and center in pop culture (who didn't see Father of the Bride, The Wedding Planner, Bride Wars, etc.) and in real life.  No longer a luxury service reserved only for the rich and famous, hiring a Wedding Consultant is considered to be an essential part of the wedding planning process.

The average wedding takes more than 300 - 500 hours to plan.  With a completely blank canvas,  and unlimited options, designing the perfect day is a daunting task for anyone, let alone a couple also trying to enjoy their engagement while balancing family, friends, work, and life in general.  There are themes to be determined, vendors to seek out, interview, and negotiate with.  Dresses need to be tried on, fashion decisions tied together, stationary to print.  The list goes on and on.

Enter the Wedding Planner!  Hiring a Wedding Planner will immediately alleviate much of your stress.  They can take as large, or as limited, of a role as you would like.  Fear not that a Wedding Planner will take over, making the wedding more theirs than your own.  Quite the contrary, a good Wedding Planner allows you to dream, and then relax and enjoy watching those dreams come true right before your eyes.

After getting to know the two of you as a couple, your Consultant will be able to draft and present you with a series of ideas and themes for your big day, and provide assistance as you edit your ideas and refine your vision.  Inspiration boards will be crafted, budgets will be defined, and a selection of vendors will be presented to you for consideration.  Your Wedding Consultant's years of experience with various members of the wedding community, scheduling, and negotiation allows you access to the best the industry has to offer, along with the peace of mind that comes only from having a professional at your side to guide you through the planning process.  Everything from florals to photos, menus, music, decor and more can be processed through your planner, and coordinated in such a way so that it appears to be a cohesive, balanced, highly stylized affair that speaks to your guests, allowing them to share in your love.

Beyond the basic, logistical aspects of planning for your wedding, hiring a Consultant provides you with emotional benefits as well.  Now, there is a place and a person you can go to with anything, no judgement.  Your Wedding Planner will not tire of listening to you.  She (or he) can empathize, and offer suggestions with everything from how to deal with a renegade bridesmaid to your mother, future mother in law, and even your fiance.  At times, you may feel as if your Wedding Consultant has become one of your best friends.  And that's because she has.  As a Planner myself I can tell you that the bond that forms is real.  In fact, I count a number of my former brides as friends, keeping in touch with them about life and love, marriage and kids, and all things in between.

When seeking out any wedding professional, but most importantly a Wedding Planner, the most important thing is that you feel a true connection.  You will be spending a tremendous amount of time with one another on the phone, in person, and via email. More than that, you need to have complete confidence in the person you entrust with this task.  Discuss their educational background, experience, and review testimonials from previous brides.

After you have done all of this, relax and enjoy knowing that the hardest part of the planning process had been handled!

Always...A